Bribing or Rewarding students for Good Behavior
Many of us educators wonder the difference between a bribe and a reward. After all, both instances, our students are getting something for doing what we want them to do. But, is this helpful in teaching them better behavior or not? Actually, it is important to understand that bribery become an on-going pattern that ultimately teaches our student to act out to get what they want. To make things even more confusing, attempting to curtail our student’s unruly actions by offering a bribe might actually seem like it’s working in the moment. For example, when we are in the shopping mall, while shopping or getting something our children is running throughout the store, this situation will irritate and humiliate us, instead making a deal to eat his favorite foods and toys if he behave. Fortunately the child settles down. Great it works, but we are unaware that we are playing the feeling of the child and after which we discover that our tactics was a sense of powerless. This is because the scenario teaches the child with another method of maintaining control and develops of this behavior as blackmail instead; they don’t believe you anymore as long as there is something in equivalent and likely continue to repeat the strategy as long as it is working for a purpose.
I heard many parents describe interactions with their kids in which they promised all manners of tempting treats and activities in exchange for behaving appropriately. Parents end up feeling as though they are badly bribing their children to comply. Kids can come to expect something extra for simply executing their daily responsibilities, which can in turn lead to a false sense of entitlement. Many of us, teachers and educators confused on what is the difference between giving bribe or rewarding it for good behavior. Generally, bribery occurs under pressure; right slap in the middle of a situation in which our child has apparently developed horns and a tail. It happens quickly, when all we want is to change our child’s behavior on the spot, so we offer him something that we had no previous intention of offering. It is a form of negotiation. On the other hand, the effective use of rewards is quite different, because you are compensating your child for his good behavior, rather than being manipulated and forced. To understand how rewards work, it can be helpful to think in terms of how the work world operates. For example, we do our job and complete the tasks that are required of our position, and our concrete reward is a pay check. While there are numerous other ways in which work can be satisfying, the pay check is the tangible form of a reward that we receive. Likewise, for our child, motivation to please us and teachers might apply more during different phases of development than others, but for the most part, children tend to be externally motivated by things they want or enjoy.
Every teacher has incentives designed to provide students with clear feedback on appropriate classroom behavior, and a path to progress toward mastery of the curriculum. Teachers are free to design their own incentives in the class in order to achieve their objectives. Which system they choose isn’t as important as the fact that there is a system in place and that it’s followed consistently. For instance, students earned extra points if will able to answer the extra questions, while other students are exempted from the 3rd quiz if they got perfect score of 1st and 2nd quizzes. This form of rewards encourages the students to study and work hard for their lesson at the same time learning takes place. Similarly, classroom incentives, prizes and punishments and worst case favouritism are part of a controversial topic for teachers. Many teachers see an advantage for rewards as an appropriate and effective way to manage classroom. Other teachers don’t want to bribe or reward the students, instead encourage the students to their work and motivated by their own way, this is also a way on how to teach the students to become responsible. For example, if we start off the year showering students with rewards, they are going to expect it and will most likely only work for the rewards. However, if we limit prizes from day one, we may find that we can get away from the material aspect a little bit and save ourselves a significant amount of money in the long run.
Whenever possible, determine most rewards ahead of time, be clear with behavioral expectations and do not forget the critical teaching component. It is important to understand that we cannot expect students to do something differently if they do not know how. Our student’s behavior can often be linked to the developmental stage he is moving through. Keeping this in mind is significant because it helps us soften our view. In other words, it’s not that students are always deceitfully acting out; they may just be exercising an undesirable method of accomplishing a developmentally normal task. As adults, we have made it this far in the world because of what we have learned. We can guide our children and students as well to use more appropriate ways of checking off targets. This might involve problem, solving conversations, role playing, or planned field tests that allow our students to practice the new skills they are acquiring. Being a coach and teacher are two of the most effective caps we can wear as a parent and a teacher. In the end, we parents and educators are all still learning too! Taking a look at what behavior we might be reinforcing and how we are reinforcing it may lead to a change in our approach and yield better results.
Actually, we can avoid giving material rewards to our students. Yes we are happy if we receive tangible rewards from anybody, teachers, parents and friends but those are material things that will not last forever. Instead, we try to practice to use an intangible rewards to our students by giving appreciation of their outcome, giving appreciation certificate as a sign of accomplishments, this is one of the ways to motivate students without losing of money and going to department store just to buy candies or toys just for rewards. In the end, positive results that will lead students to discover their potentials by working hard just to attain their objectives, likewise other students who are encouraged or idolized their classmates to gain the same. Remember that when we resort to bribery to control your student’s behavior, the price that you wind up paying is actually a lot higher than it may seem in the moment. Instead, require that our students earn reasonable rewards by taking care of his responsibilities and making positive steps in improving his behavior.